I am reading a book right now called “The Seat of the Soul,” by Gary Zukav. It’s a very interesting read that breaks down what the soul is versus the personality, how the soul can help us through our life, what intuition is and how to get it to work for us (spoiler alert: meditate!), the power of intention, and so much more.
There was a particular part about emotion that gave me extra pause for consideration. He writes:
..honor emotional cleansing at all times. If you are emotionally blocked and you cannot, or you do not, know what you feel, or if you have blocked what you feel so effectively that you become emotionless, you become a negative person, and you also create a physically diseased body. By keeping your emotions clear, emotional negativity does not reside in you, and you become lighter and lighter. This opens your intuitive track because it allows you a clear sense of loving. It brings you closer to unconditional love and renders you harmless. It lightens the quality of your frequency, so to speak, and therefore the guidance that you receive is clear and unobstructed as it enters your system.
This paragraph reminded me of a situation that happened in the last few months where I had an interesting feeling that I needed to stop and feel an unpleasant feeling instead of shutting it down and covering it up with “the bright side.” Essentially, there was a potential opportunity that kind of came out of the blue. It would have been great for me and my transition time that I have been in this year, and there were many external reasons that it seemed inevitable it would come together. I was in limbo for many weeks while the final decision was made. In the end, things didn’t pan out. When I got the news that it wasn’t going to happen, I had a sting of disappointment and sadness, which I very quickly started to turn into thoughts of, “Oh well, now I’ll have more time for [whatever other things were coming up],” and “I guess it wasn’t supposed to happen this way,” etc.
Those consolatory thoughts were, of course, true. They are important, as well. It’s correct to pick ourselves back up when we’ve had a disappointment, because that’s life! I tell my kids all the time, things don’t always happen the way we expect or want them to, but the important thing is what we learn from the disappointments and how we use that knowledge to better ourselves.
However, in my core something stopped me from immediately disregarding the negative emotions. I can’t say why, but I just felt it was important to really feel the disappointment, and let myself be sad. Something inside me encouraged me to suspend my need to brush past the hurt in favor of feeling better, and to spend some time in that uncomfortable place. So, I did. I let myself be disappointed for a while. I felt that lower-dwelling energy and sat with it. I didn’t analyze it or try to change it, I just let it be. And, just like all emotions, it passed. Its time was limited.
I didn’t know why feeling those bad feelings seemed so necessary that day. I don’t know if I had some karma to clear that required me to accept those negative emotions, and I wouldn’t get through the karma if I didn’t actually go through it (causing me to continue to repeat similar experiences). Or, maybe, people close to me will undergo similar hurt and it will help them to know I’ve been there, too, and if I don’t feel what they will feel I won’t have the right level of empathy. Or, as this passage from The Seat of the Soul tells us, I needed to let the emotion get through me properly so it could pass through without blocking me. It’s an interesting idea which I hadn’t spent a lot of time considering but which makes so much sense, that an important part of life is working with our emotions completely, assuring that they have been experienced to the extent that their energy does its thing and passes through, without getting the opportunity to get stuck, pushed down, or hidden. And with this also is the importance of letting the emotion get to the point of completion, where it does pass through. We don’t want to have the opposite problem of the one I was trying to avoid, where instead of pushing the emotion away we embrace it to the extent that we hold on to it way longer than is helpful, and it blocks us up because we can’t let go of it.
So, let us embrace all of the emotions our ongoing experiences bring to us, but we also must let them be what they are: fluid and temporary. Let us not fear that in letting ourselves sit with the negative for a bit we are doing something wrong. After all, how can we appreciate the good feelings if we don’t also honor the harder ones?
I am an Ananda® certified meditation teacher. I am passionate about meditation and embrace a yogic lifestyle for greater wellness physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
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